The purpose of the programme then becomes to help me achieve my own goals, and I will be satisfied with as much AA as enables me to do that, provided that what is required is not too inconvenient or difficult. I talk to a sponsor to get out of him everything I think I need to improve my life, and then I close the hatch in the door of my castle through which I have been speaking to him and send him away.
The second surrender is when I realise that no plan I can come up with will match God's plan for me and that trying to plough my own furrow will ultimately lead to perdition. The game is now different: rather than fitting AA around my life I fit my life around AA.
Then, the game is to seek and do God's will in all matters, for its own sake. The test: "the things which matter so much to some people no longer signify much to them. How could they?" (Big Book, page 161), for what I have then is the peace of being a servant, and nothing beats that.